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New Study Shows Decrease in Mid-schooler Problem Behaviours When Parents are Given Guidance Before the Child Enters Middle-schoosl

At Adolescent Counseling Services, one of our key philosophies is that when the entire family is involved in resolving an issue faced by an adolescent, the outcome is positive and lasting. A recent study published in the February 2012  Journal of Adolescent Health put this theory to test. The study“Engaging Parents in the Family Check-Up […]

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Everything You Wanted To Say To Your Middle Schooler, But Didn’t Know How-Part IV

By Philippe Rey, Psy. D. Executive Director of Adolescent Counseling Services So now that we have a good idea about what is really going on with drugs and alcohol, let’s look at more ways we can help our teens. As I mentioned last week, as parents your task is to encourage choice. That means that […]

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New Series: Everything You Wanted To Know About Your Middle Schooler but Were Afraid To Ask

By Philippe Rey, Psy.D. Executive Director of Adolescent Counseling Services The goal for this blog series on middle schoolers is to provide you with the tools and information you need to have a more open and genuine conversation with your child.  Additionally, this blog series will prepare your family for the difficult topics of conversation […]

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How to Manage School Refusal Behaviors

How to Manage School Refusal Behaviors (aka when ‘playing hooky’ becomes a serious situation)    by Christina Walker, Psy.D., Site Director at Menlo-Atherton High School “I don’t want to go to school today.”  Is there a parent who hasn’t heard this plaintive cry from a child or adolescent?  Children and teenagers can and will miss […]

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Facebook Linked To Poor Mental Health in Teens

Facebook has been the center of attention for the past few years for a number of things. Some are positive, such as staying connected with family, re-connecting with old friends, finding new friends, streaming global events live, starting movements, and bringing attention to social issues. However the negative ramifications of Facebook have also been at […]

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Breaking the Stigma: Teen Stress

Breaking the Stigma: Teen Stress – video and recap

On Tuesday, March 22, 2011, Adolescent Counseling Services hosted an intimate presentation and discussion on teen stress at the Cubberley Community Center in Palo Alto.  A presentation on teen stress was given by ACS’ Adolescent Substance Abuse Treatment Program Director, Enrique Flores, MA and ACS’ On-Campus Counseling Program Director, Roni Gillenson, LMFT.  Other panelists included  Ursula […]

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Setting Limits

One of the hardest things for a parent to do is say no to his child. “Well,” parents often rationalize, “it’s only the first time he has stayed out past curfew. He is under a lot of stress and really wants to see his friends, so I suppose I will let him go out tonight.” […]

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Limits and boundaries (Part 3)

When determining consequences, it is a good idea to consider those related to the broken rule, that are short term, and that are given immediately.  For example, if you teen comes home an hour late one night, you may consider giving them the consequence that they cannot go out the next night, or they will […]

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Limits and boundaries (Part 2)

Some parents are resistant to providing structure for their teens.  Some may believe that setting limits and providing consequences will turn them into police officers in their own home.  Some feel like they are being too harsh on their teens, others may believe that providing limits will create resentment or drive a wedge in their […]

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Limits and boundaries (Part 1)

Healthy structure is one of the most important gifts parents can provide for their teens.  Growing up in a house with structure will help teens to predict consequences, learn from their mistakes and improve healthy relationships between parents and teens. Many adolescents will act as if they don’t like limits being placed on them; however, […]

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